Ben Iyoha
Disclaim-Her is the story of a girl who
thought she was loved until someday she was rejected by the same one she loved.
Why would he disclaim-her? Isn’t he the same person who swarmed her with his
presence, charm, love and promises? She had lived to cherish his presence; his
breath upon her face is like fresh breeze from the ocean wave. But little did
she know that PROMISE is not a verb, LOVE is only a word and even SEX ends with
EX. when it is time he’ll disclaim her.
Disclaim-Her
is also the story of a girl who had a clue and saw the sign that she was
rounded up by a sham, a man whose heart she can never own but yet she believed
in her own lies.
She looks off
and clicks ‘’ACCEPT’’ just like a
software licensing agreement, we never get to read the content where there’s
often a disclaimer. We are always eager to get into the ware; to enjoy its
goodies and services but within always lay clauses and causes.
The irony is,
before a “Disclaim-Her” situation theres
always a Disclaimer. Hey Ladies, the
wrong man will always be embedded with lies, crude acts and a false personality
and will always give off warning signs but we ignore reading between the lines
before we click the tab “ACCEPT”. But
one can’t completely rue a woman’s negligence after all she’s human and not
perfect but notwithstanding she could be smart enough to decipher some basic
facts be it before a relationship or marriage.
Before I
unravel some hidden conditions in a man’s software licensing agreement to which
you click accept to all the time I’ll prior talk about some basic mistakes of
the woman.
DISCUSSING
PROMISE: Any woman who sits a man
down to ask for his pledge not to let her down is doing this because she
technically knows he has the possibility of letting her down, so why go on with
him? This is the million dollar question no one can answer, because 99% of the
time the man will give you his words, pledge and even more love because it’s
already too late to back out and be seen as a flirt.
BEING CARRIED
AWAY: Personally, as a Life Coach
I advice ladies to always snoop on the man before she starts to let her guards
down. Snooping on him doesn’t mean you go overboard and demanding i.e. prying
his phone openly, sneaking around him or visiting him unannounced, NO, the
idea is to operate stealthily without giving off any clue. Know his friends, study
his movements and lifestyle, watch his demeanor when he see’s other ladies, if
you a have a heaven sent opportunity to pry his phone when he's not around, DO
SO!. Just study the underneath of him and don’t be carried away.
SYNC BEFORE
ROMANCE: Most women make this mistake, if you’ve ever allowed any form of romance/sex come before you define
the relationship you may never be his favorite girl. Being carried away by his
charm or handsomeness or cash may be the usual suspect for this error.
THE
UNATTAINABLE: If George Clooney walks up
to you, yes I mean YOU; and he tells you he loves you and wants you to be his
girlfriend/wife, would you believe him? Exactly, No… Because he falls under the
unattainable, you are not in the same class with Clooney. We often know this
kind of men when we meet them, they are only in for the sex or for the fun of
what you could offer; but we choose to go all the way to believe in nothing,
sometimes we wax spiritual just to have and keep the unattainable man.
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THE
DISCLAMER (ALL
THE SIGNS SHE MISSED AND MIXED) Yes,
you signed up for it without reading it through.
·
RESPECT – From day one I’ll touch
you anywhere even in public, because you are my girl and I can do what I like
with you. (A guy who truly love you would be scared to touch you publicly in the
beginning)
·
EGO – I have other girls lurking
around so if I don’t call you or text you as often know that I’m busy. (Some guys do little to activate the
relationship and then you start to build the rest because you have been charmed
to the pant)
·
SEX – It’s my style to demand
for sex from the very first day or date, I love sex and I can’t do without it. (if his motives are in anyway steering
towards sex even without making any concise or deliberate commitment to you
then you have in your hands a pants-man)
·
MONEY – I won’t offer you anything,
gift or dates, I’m not broke but I don’t just do such to any girl, in fact you
could be called up whenever I’m cash trapped. (when it comes to wooing you, he never made any attempt to spend a dime
on you, sometimes when he tells you he’s broke you could still see him do some
stuff with cash, NOTE: some guys could be truly broke, be able to delineate
that)
·
PRIDE – I brag a lot, it’s my way
of life and I just do it to feel good (when
he begins to say and feel too much of himself, achievement, past, present and
future then this is a danger sign that you are just in a wrong hand)
·
SENSUAL – I’m not sensual and
sensitive to women; I just live my life as it comes. (What danger could be worse than this, some men are so sensual that
when they tell you “Silver or gold I have not but my undying love” you’ll
believe it because they have proven it, run from an insensitive man)
·
LUST – It’s always about sex… sex
talks, sex motives, sex drive, sex sex sex just oozes around me (Run ma’am, you already know that’s all he’s
about.. he's infatuated and in-lust not in love)
·
LACKS HUMOR – I lack humor, I won’t guaranty you any form of true friendship
and I’m always sad and Nagy (Sometimes, it’s
not just the guy who wants to leave, but you who now feel he’s not just what you want, you feel disparaged by his lack of humor and warmth, this is more or
less like a venom he emits to turn you off, did you not notice it from day one?
some men may make your presence with them boring so as to pass the message that
you are not wanted, some may just be naturally so; be critical about this before
you give in)
·
CHILDISH – I’m a childish dude, I just
act anyhow both at home and in public, I have no word control I just talk
anyhow. (Women love to be with guys that can
be playful and romantically childish but not with a guy who naturally is plain
childish and do not inspire them. You may have noticed all this when he acts
timid and say’s things that makes little sense, except you are a cougar there’s no
point liking a kid. Age sometimes does not stop some dudes from being
childish e.g. a guy who tells his mom almost everything in the marriage of
relationship)
·
ABUSIVE – I’m tempestuous, I am a
melancholic, and I rage at the slightest provocation (How did you miss the sign that he’ll be physically and verbally
abusive? Any guy who is too possessive and tempestuous is generally expected to
be abusive. Check for his temperament and how he conducts himself with well
known ladies around him like his sisters, mom and nieces. The clues are all
inherent here)
It’s a wrap!
Nice read.... True too... Seen...
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